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Living to Die

My best “geek” girlfriend is quickly losing her battle with cancer.  The last 14 months have been the hardest I have had to deal with in my life. I have watched my smart, well spoken, strong friend wither away to nothing.

This post is for her.

Lisa came into my life about 10 years ago and we had that instant connection.  You know the connection I mean.  The type of connection where we were comfortable in silence and we would finish each others sentences.  I don’t think we ever had a fight (except over shoe styles).

We studied together, worked together and shopped together.

Lisa was my mentor, my role model.  She was the strong, spirited woman in the male-dominated world we both worked in. I admired that.

I would call to discuss the latest server issue I was having or advice on how to deal with a work issue.  She always had a suggestion and she was usually right.  She taught me to have confidence in myself.

Lisa was always pushing the boundaries of the box.  In my eyes, there was nothing she couldn’t do when she wanted to as long as she wanted to do it. There was no point pushing her to do something she didn’t want to do.  Talk about digging your heels in.

Watching Lisa live to die has been the most humbling experience in my life.  Even as her body is ravaged with cancer, she is still thinking of others.  She still offers advice and is still the strongest woman I know.

Her battle is coming to an end; we knew it would, just not so soon. I will miss her wisdom and her strength.  I will miss the energy she brings with her as she enters a room.  I will miss calling her with some nerdy, geek question. I will miss her passion for life, even while she is dying.

CN Tower Edge Walk Nov 2011

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